“Čau. es saņēmu tavu vēstuli un izlasīju viņu. es ceru ka man noderēs tavi vārdi un tavi padomi kurus tu man biji devis. Es esmu ļoti pateicīga tev un Eileen par to ka jūs rūpējaties par mani un hariju ka atbalstat mūs un palīdzat kā vien spējat. Jūs priekš manis izdarījāt daudz ko labu un par to es jums esmu pateicīga. Jūs kļuvāt priekš manis ļoti svarīgi cilvēki manā dzīvē. Es ļoti ilgojos pēc jums un jūsu uzmanības. Mēs jūs mīlam un skūpstam.” – April 29, 2015
The above message, one of over 600 messages received via social media, was received by me in response to a letter I sent to her ( see Letter to My Daughters). If you’ve been following along with this saga of love conquering fear you’ve been able to be a part of the journey of hosting Daniela. You’ve been a silent witness to her very high walls and displays of fear and confusion at the beginning of this process, this metamorphosis (“I don’t understand. They say they love me but they don’t even know me. My own family does not love me.”). You’ve felt our own confusion, questioning and struggles with loving unconditionally. You’ve also been there when the walls came down, when she allowed herself to be herself. You’ve been there for the laughter and the tears. So what’s the point of the story?
The point is in the title. Throughout this relationship, she’s changed and so have we. We continue to grow closer as a family, even two years after the hosting experiment ended! Looking back, “hosting” may be the technical name for what we experienced but it turns out it’s closer to finding a long lost family member and smothering them with hugs and kisses. It’s never, ever doubting that persistent and consistent love will beat back fear every time. It’s knowing that the tiniest light from a match chases out the darkness and that darkness can never overcome the light.
What’s more is that the impact of love drills down deep into the hurt and the fear and expands to crack the soul’s foundation of darkness and hardness. In a few short weeks she found lightness and faith and hope and family; we found faith, love, hope and a daughter. We never imagined at the start of this process that love could have such a dramatic impact on one life; after all, what could we accomplish in such a short period of time? Our expectations were low because, I suspect, we questioned whether love really could conquer all. The fact is that we, as mere humans acting alone, could not breach those hardened walls … only with God’s help in doing His business could we do this God shattered that glass ceiling and the love we share with her has now expanded to the next generation – Harry.
If you’re thinking of hosting an orphan, jump in with both feet. If you’re thinking of coaching little league, do it. If you’re on the fence about scouting, get involved. If you’re doubting the impact you can have, show up and leave the impact to Him. The experiences will forever change you and them; love will leave an indelible tattoo on the soul. Acting in love has a greater impact than just words. 1 John 3:18. Is it scary? You betcha but the rewards are beyond description!!
By the way, the loose translation for Daniela’s message is this:
“Hi. I received your letter and read it. I hope that it will come in handy with your statement and your tips to me that you gave. I am very grateful to you and Eileen that you are caring for me and Harry for supporting us and helping us as long as you are able. You did for me much good and for that I am grateful to you. You became for me very important people in my life. I longed after you and your attention. We love you and kisses.”
I still get choked up over all of this. It truly is a miracle. How can it be that out of all that brokenness – hers and ours – that oneness and wholeness, a family could take shape?